Sabine’s Story

People ask me who Dominic was and what DOMHUGS is about.
There was so much depth and substance to him and it is hard to explain him in just a few sentences.
Dominic was the kind of friend that you knew you could always depend on. The kind of buddy that would give his honest opinion and be there through thick and thin, good and bad.
The man other men would trust their wives and girlfriends to be around.
A person with integrity, morales and deep love for those he called family and friends.
Someone you could call at any time and he would be there.
A prankster with jokes and stories to make you laugh for days and the gentle shoulder to lean on when things were not that great.
Dominic was the kind of man you wanted for a brother, son in law, confidant and by your side.
He walked into a room and people were drawn to him. And yet he was a very humble man.
He put others before him and is still remembered as the gentle giant.
He worked for Moreno Valley TV, volunteered for the Local Fire Stations,worked at the 911 Dispatch Center for the Riverside Sheriff Department, became a Pilot and still found time for fun with his friends and time to hang out with mom.
His deep laughter was well known and so were the many pictures of him being the photo bomber with bug eyes in the background.
To me he was the best that ever happened in my life. From the first moment I looked at him until the very last time I got to touch him, he was my best friend, my rock, my buddy and the light of my life.
We had the best relationship, respect for each other and a true and unconditional love for each other.
He called himself a proud mommas boy and made sure people knew.
Our 30 years together were so precious and not a moment wasted. Many fun vacations together, motorcycle rides and just being in our shared home with our dogs.
It was easy living with him. We had our moments, but they never lasted and there was never a grudge.
We could speak about anything honestly and we’re best of friends.
When Dominic was taken from us, it left a huge, deep hole and not only in my heart, but innate heart of so many.
He taught me that we must live a life without regrets, to stand up for what we believe in and be passionate about life and people.Dominic taught me to live every day as if it was my last, tackle uncomfortable issues and to enjoy the little precious things we sometimes overlook for our world is too busy.
He is missed by so many from all over the world and he will never be forgotten.
I started DOMHUGS to continue his legacy and to share his story and to make a difference.
The way and how he died is important to share in order to seek change and to prevent others to have to deal with a senseless tragedy like this.
DOMHUGS will continue to make contributions to the city Dominic loved so much and help those in need.
DOMHUGS will also continue to share what I have learned and experienced since Dominic’s death.
I have changed because of this horrific loss and don’t want to waste any time or precious moments.
Some of the issues I talk about have nothing to do with a certain race, color or country, but all to do with law and order, right or/and wrong.
I know Dominic is very proud of me for being proactive and I will continue to share DOMHUGS until my last breath. His death will not be in vain.
This is my fight for Dominic and many others who can’t speak up anymore.
Thank you each and everyone for understanding, trying to understand and for loving me, supporting me and keeping Dominic’s memory alive.
Huge DOMHUGS to all of you

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Sabine goes to Washington D.C.

As I am waiting for my flight to Washington, D.C., I have a little time to reflect on the Avalanche that I was in for the past 2 weeks.
I first want to thank each and everyone for the incredible love, support, generosity and just being behind us for the last 3 years.
3 years ago I was looking at coffins and urns, trying to pick out flowers and just trying to wrap my head around what happened to our Dominic.
I still have a hard time with him not being here, next to me. But it is such a honor to see his name up all over the news (nation and worldwide)
I get to share this beautiful man with the world. I get to share his story and sadly why and how he died. His death was never an accident and u now get to make a difference in his name, to try to prevent another family to feel this pain.
I love each and everyone of you so very much and Anthony and u could not have made it this far without you all.

Huge Dom Hugs!

Love Sabine

 

 

 

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Dominic’s Life

dompicDominic D. Durden was born on January 22nd, 1982 in Germany. At the age of 10, he and his family moved to the US where they planted roots in
Moreno Valley California. He was the kind of person that was an exemplary friend; always there when you needed someone, and a person who even if you just met, had a feeling as if you were the best of friends for years. Dominic was very active in the community volunteering for local Fire stations where he participated in drills, performed administrative duties, and went on emergency calls with the Fire Department. In addition to this, Dominic also volunteered at the local TV station, MVTV-3 where he eventually was hired to a part time position. Dominic has been recognized on numerous occasions for his work in the community receiving 87 letters of recommendations along with 111 school and work award certificates; some of which were awarded to him by former President Bill Clinton and Senators Diane Feinstein and Barbra Boxer. In 2002 he also received Volunteer of the Year Award for over 1000 hours of community service in Moreno Valley.

In 2006, Dominic became a 9-1-1 dispatcher for the Riverside Sheriff’s Department. He had a calming presence and could calm the most frantic caller to the Riverside County Sheriff’s dispatch center. Deputies felt in good hands whenever Dominic was working and he had a special call sign that he used when he started his shift to let the deputies know that he was looking out for them. As much as Dominic loved being a dispatcher, his ultimate goal was to become a helicopter pilot for the Police Department which was driven by his passion for Law Enforcement.

On the morning of July 12th, 2012 while on his way to work, Dominic was killed by a reckless, unlicensed, uninsured driver who also happened to be in this country illegally. He had a prior Felony conviction, 2 DUI (probation granted on both) and had been deported back to Guatemala on a precious occasion. The killer of Dominic was charged with a Misdemeanor Vehicular Manslaughter without Gross Negligence and because of a deal made with the presiding Judge and DA, received only 9 month / 5 years probation.

The Illegal Felon served 35 days in a local Jail !!!

He was then handed over to an ICE Detention Center. I was not to let my sons death  be in vain and I refused to let him become just a statistic.

For 1.5 years, my Fiancé Anthony and I became a weekly presence at the Immigration Detention Center, wrote letters to the Judge and attended hearings  or just sat in the lobby to let people know we were looking for justice. The killer of my only child was finally deported 1.5 years after his arrest.

Because of his work in the community, Dominic was honored posthumously with the Mayoral Proclamation recognizing his service to the city of Moreno Valley on December 18th, 2012.

In 2013 I  accepted the Presidential award from CPRA (California Public Safety Radio Association) in my sons honor and in addition to this, Riverside Sherriff’s Department created the Dominic Durden Top 911 Dispatcher Award that is handed out to the best in class for every new class of 911 Dispatchers.

Since Dominic’s senseless and avoidable death, I have been busy going to Washington Dc to testify in behalf of Dominic and other victims killed by illegals. I have also been on numerous Radio and TV shows sharing my sons tragic story and have met so many other moms and dads who lost a precious loved one because of the same issue. We all now belong to a “club ” no one wants to be a member of. Together we are fighting to have our Government make sure all of your families are better protected.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the love and support.

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